5 steps to finding your flow
So how can you improve the quality of your life by tapping into a flow state more often? By exploring the following five steps you can start to incorporate more flow into your life and begin to feel more joy, creativity, productivity, meaning and fearlessness.
Practice self-awareness
Do you know what activities take you to a place of flow? To enjoy more flow experiences, become more aware of how you feel when you are engaging in your life. Start to notice what you do that suspends time, quietens your inner critic, feels effortless, engages your skills, challenges you, leads to new insights and is deeply satisfying. Once you have this self-knowledge, look at how you can incorporate these activities more into your life to increase your overall wellbeing.
If you aren’t entirely sure what moves you to a flow state, it’s time to try new things. It’s time to uncover what allows you to feel most free, connected, creative, productive and confident. Maybe your flow experiences will come when you try something new, like learning how to paddle-board or teaching a course. What activities have you thought you might enjoy but haven’t tried yet? What new experiences could you say yes to over the next few months?
Reduce distractions
Flow follows focus. How present are you in your life and work? Do you allow your brain to work on one thing at a time, or do you spend most of your day multi-tasking? You can encourage the state of flow in everyday activities by reducing distractions, giving your full attention to the work you are doing, being in the present moment and de-cluttering your work and living spaces.
Suspend self-judgment
Do you spend too much time “in your head”? Do you regularly over-think things and get wrapped up in worries, so much so that you don’t take action or work on things that are meaningful to you?
One of the biggest barriers to accessing flow is the distraction that often happens inside your own mind, also known as your “inner critic”. As soon as your mind becomes consumed by questions like, “Is this the right thing to do?” or “Is this the best use of my time?” or even “Am I good enough?” you block the opportunity to experience flow.
Quietening your critical inner voice and suspending self-judgment will help you to experience more flow in your life. In a state of flow you are more willing to engage, take action, express and create. In what areas of your life do you need to let go and stop over-thinking? What things do you want to do in your life but fear and worry has stopped you?
Set new challenges
Csikszentmihalyi discovered that flow doesn’t happen when you are under-challenged or over-challenged in your life. If you feel under-challenged you become bored and if you are over-challenged you become anxious. Neither boredom nor anxiety improves performance, confidence or happiness.
To stay in flow you need to keep challenging yourself at the right level. Consider how you can take on new challenges that actively engage your skills, without moving you into a state of anxiety. What can you do in your life to set new challenges that engage your skills and stretch you a little?
The beauty of seeking a flow state by challenging yourself is that you are always growing. Csikszentmihalyi says, “It is this dynamic feature that explains why flow activities lead to growth and discovery. One cannot enjoy doing the same thing at the same level for long. We either grow bored or frustrated; and then the desire to enjoy ourselves again pushes us to stretch our skills, or to discover new opportunities for using them.”
Give yourself permission
One of the defining features of the flow state is enjoyment. Csikszentmihalyi describes flow as “autotelic”. The word is derived from the Greek auto, meaning self, and telos, meaning goal, referring to the idea that an activity can be rewarding in and of itself.
How often do you do things for the pure joy of it? Have the pressures of being an adult and needing to be responsible crowded in and changed what you do in your life? Have you given up activities that allow you to experience flow because they don’t feel “productive”? Maybe you have stopped creating art, singing, gardening, cooking, taking photos or working on a project because it doesn’t feel like it’s leading anywhere.
You can encourage the state of flow in everyday activities by reducing distractions, giving your full attention to the work you are doing, being in the present moment and de-cluttering your work and living spaces.
Feeling like everything you do must lead to an outcome can stop you accessing and enjoying the flow state in your life. In order to feel more flow in your life you must be willing to give yourself permission and time to engage in the activities that activate this healthy and harmonious state within you. While it can feel indulgent to make time for activities that are joy-based, it’s these very activities that lead to a greater sense of happiness, health and fulfillment.
There are many times in life when you have to do things, but the truly beautiful and enlightening moments are the times you are living and working in flow. The combined sense of timelessness, effortlessness and increased creativity, along with the reduction in fear, worry and self-consciousness, makes the flow state a truly optimal place to live.